Steps for Discernment

Is God Calling Me / Steps for Discernment



Are you interested in what God is calling you to? Follow the steps below to grow closer to Jesus so you can here his voice and follow him.



Get on your knees

“Prayer is the raising of one’s mind and heart to God or the requesting of good things from God” (St. Therese of Lisieux, CCC 2559). God invites us into a relationship with Him that is both personal and communal. He speaks to us through His Son, Jesus Christ, the Word-made-flesh. Prayer is our response to God who is already speaking or, better yet, revealing Himself to us. Therefore, prayer is not merely an exchange of words, but it engages the whole person in a relationship with God the Father, through the Son, and in the Holy Spirit.


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Order your life towards God

As you seek the Lord and grow in relationship with Him through prayer, ask Him how He wants you to live in accordance with His will.


- Attend Mass every Sunday, and daily if possible. Receive Holy Communion frequently.
- Seek to be more like Christ. Receive the Sacrament of Reconciliation frequently.
_ Click here for a Guide to the this sacrament.
- Make a commitment to grow closer to God every day. Make a daily examination of conscience.
- Commit to a daily life of prayer
- Live the Beatitudes
- Witness to Christ in your everyday life by living a life of charity, of sacrifice, of total commitment to Him, and by sharing your faith with others
- Be active - serve in your local parish as God is calling you.

Through prayer, seek a life centered on Christ, totally abandoned to Him. "If any man would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me. For whoever would save his life will lose it, and whoever loses his life for my sake will find it." (Matt 16:24-25)



Decide on a spiritual director

Spiritual Direction is assistance given to persons in discernment, in growing in holiness and in the practice of Christian virtue. A spiritual director helps the directee in this under the guidance of the Holy Spirit, who is the true director. Spiritual direction is not counseling or therapy, but rather guidance in the spiritual life. Spiritual direction should help one to become more open to the Holy Spirit and identify His action in one's life, to identify obstacles in the spiritual life and overcome them, and to grow in the life of prayer and virtue. It is a way that God works through the Church. It is important that one be open and honest with a director as
one would be with the Lord Himself, so that He can work through His chosen human instruments.




Study Vocations

Recommended Reading:
- Intro to the Devout Life, St. Francis DeSales
- Fire Within, Fr. Thomas Dubay
- Witness to Hope, George Weigel 
- The Story of a Soul, St. Therese 
- Confessions, St. Augustine 
- The Imitation of Christ, Thomas a Kempis 
- "...And You are Christ's," Fr. Thomas Dubay 
- Peter on the Shore, 
- Vita Consecrata - Click here for an online version! 
- Pastores Dabo Vobis - Click here for an online version! 
- Message of Pope John Paul II for the 1st World Day of Consecrated Life - Click here for an online version! 
- Homily of Pope John Paul II for World Day of Consecrated Life, 2004 - Click here for an online version! 
- Message for World Day of Vocations - Click here for an online version!



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Live healthy relationships

To live a healthy and holy relationship, we need to live the virtue of chastity. The chaste person maintains the integrity of the powers of life and live placed in Him.


Chastity means the successful integration of sexuality within the person and thus the inner unity of the person in body and spirit. Chastity allows us to control our passions, to make choices that are truly free, and to seek what is good for ourselves and for others.


The virtue of chastity blossoms in friendship by showing us how to follow Christ and how to imitate Him who has given himself totally to us and who allows us to share in His divine life.


Chastity is the freedom to follow God's call and a promise of immortality. (adapted CCC 2337-2347)



Listen to the Lord

As you discern God’s call, continue to turn to Him in prayer. Make a commitment to daily prayer and speak to Him from the heart. Ask Him to help you to be open to whatever He might ask. Be willing to investigate the possibilities as you continue to follow these steps throughout your discernment. Abandon yourself totally to Him, and He will guide you. In the words of Mary, “Do whatever He tells you.” (John 2:5).